The Viable Alternative

I was watching this documentary recently called, “The Living Matrix” which in a nutshell was about alternative forms of healing. On it, there was a particular segment about a woman who had divorced her husband because while she wanted kids, he didn’t want any. After her divorce, she made plans on eventually getting remarried and having two kids, but in the middle of her plans, she found out she had ovarian cancer, and one of the consequences of ovarian cancer was infertility, i.e. she couldn’t have kids. Read more…

A few weeks ago, I was talking to a friend of mine who was telling me about yet another relationship he had gotten into with a woman whose red flags that were indicated to him in the beginning had begun to degenerate into full blown dysfunction in the relationship. I wasn’t surprised because this was nothing new with him. Just about every one of the women he had gotten involved with since I had known him was majorly broken in some way and all types of drama would eventually ensue because of it. Read more…

In life, we all know of many people who have a load of issues in their lives with legitimate excuses as to why they’re messed up.

“My mother threw me down the stairs.”

“My father abandoned us.”

“My parents never made me feel loved.” Read more…

I was talking to a close friend recently, and she was telling me about a friend of hers who had a successful physical therapy practice in Brazil. She was quite well off financially, but she was extremely negative, unhappy, and always complaining about her life. In her head, her life was horrible and she was never happy with what she had. She said her external life reflected her behaviour in that it was a mess. Read more…

I remember in the 90s, when my friends wanted to roll to the “weed spot” to cop some weed, they talked of this one place they patronized that was for all intents and purposes a bodega. In the back of the bodega there was a bathroom which had a medicine cabinet with a mirror that opened. When you opened the door to the medicine cabinet you’d see a wooden wall. If you were to knock several times on the wall, someone from behind the wall would open a slit in the wall and ask you what you wanted, and you’d order your weed. He’d then get the weed, you’d pass your money through the slit and he’d in turn hand you your stash, and then you’d leave the store. Read more…

Let’s face it, as negative sounding as the title sounds, most people walking around the planet are extremely unhappy and will most likely stay that way. If you have any question about my claim that most people are unhappy, just look at the high divorce rate, the high rate of crime, the drug abuse, the wars that go on due to people’s egos, the amount of people on depression meds, etc, etc. Here are ten reasons why you’re unhappy and likely to remain that way. I’ll even go as far as to say that I’m not innocent of some of the things on this list either, and have to consistently remain vigilant so as not to fall into some of these patterns. Read more…

In the past, I would get involved with a woman, and everything would be going fine until one day I’d think that I did or said something wrong to get her disinterested in me, and I’d then start to think she was going to end it with me. I’d go from being witty, funny, fun, confident, laid back and interesting to needy, self conscious, stiff, stifled, moody and defensive. As a result, my fear would then become a self-fulfilling prophecy and whatever me and the woman had would fizzle out. Read more…

One of the cornerstones of The Viable Alternative is inspiration. It is to inspire people to find a way out of The Illusion that most people are stuck in and carve their own unique way to achieve and express their own unique potential. I’ve always loved to read stories of people who’ve defied the odds by stepping out of the common path taken by the majority of people and achieving or overcoming what few people expect them to and most people in their situation don’t. Read more…

Kevin O’Leary caught a lot of flack in this video from Amanda Lang, during an episode of the Canadian Broadcast Company’s “The Lang and O’Leary Exchange” and also from the people who watched the video. Words like “douchebag” and “insensitive” were thrown around.

You know what though? I don’t think the man said anything wrong. Read more…

Oh that damn anxiety!

I’m no expert, but anxiety is a condition that plagues a vast number of people and is something that most people, present company included, would rather do without. In fact, many people are so intent on avoiding it that they’re willing to self medicate via alcohol, sex, drug abuse, co-dependent relationships, violence, workaholicism, over eating, sleeping, etc, etc just to escape that dreadful feeling. Read more…